I am always amused at Hollywoods rumour mill and how they are just so shocked at how short marriages are there. Why? Since Hollywood became Hollywood the marriages there were like changing socks.
Brad Pitt is a handsome, talented and succesful actor........Jennifer Aniston is somewhat in that category, although since Friends ended she isn't seen as much. Her career could take off and do well or flounder and die as many sitcom actresses careers do after the sitcom is over. She doesn't want children, Brad wants kids bad! Enter Angelina Jolie! She loves kids, wants lots of them, she is gorgeous, sensual and very single........Brad couldn't help but notice when they are working together. Hell, no man can help noticing Angelina Jolie, he would have to blind not to!
Do I find it surprising? Hell No!! This doesn't mean I think he should ditch Jennifer Anniston over another woman, but if the relationship is caput, well, what the hell!
What does surprise me is that anyone takes marriage seriously in Hollywood at all. There are so few that have lasted more than 10 years it is almost a rarity! Pretty much our society has bought into that and most marriages outside of Hollywood don't last more than 10 years. Why?
My thought on this is that too many people get married so they are not alone. They get married because they think this is their last chance at having someone or they need to because of age, or society pressuring them, or what have you. They don't stop to consider that a marriage vow is something that is serious and very spiritual in nature, not to be taken lightly, not to be entered into with the thought that if this doesn't work, well, I can always get a divorce! Why get married at all if that is the way you think?
I am not a supporter of staying in a unhappy marriage, It hink that causes way more problems than it solves. Children always know when their parents are unhappy and sometimes take the blame onto themselves and it also taints their view of relationships. You have to have a connection there, a deep, loving, affectionate........real relationship for it to work. You can't pretend, you can't hide it forever if it isn't working, you can't be happy if you just live a lie. At some point the snake turns around and bites you.
True, all relationships have their ups and downs. No couple doesn't have fights or hardships and times of utter frustration with each other, but if you truly love someone, you get through it and are better for it. If you dont' really love that person, well you are fighting a losing battle and they will bitter and resentful because of it and so will you. This is why I wonder what the point of getting married is all about if you are not sure it is exactly what you want. It isn't something that should be like garbage, toss it when you are done with it. It should be harder to get married than divorced!!!! If it was more costly and harder to get approved to marry, there would be less divorces!! People would truly have to think and decide and be sure.
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